On the flip side of Matt’s humorous observations about stage diving, it shouldn’t have to be stated that stage diving (and moshing, for that matter) should be done with respect to those around you, regardless of how cool you think you are. Punk and hardcore shows have always been a liberating and energy-filled space for people to scream, sing, dance, and positively vent aggression, but the sense of community we share in our respective scenes is severely tested when people selfishly and violently let out that aggression on fellow show-goers. When you don’t respect the people who are there to share that same exhilaration and energy that you are there to experience, you are not extra “punk” because of it. You’re just a fucking asshole.
If you think it’s fun or hilarious to hit people at shows, go fuck yourself. If you think it’s fun or hilarious to stage dive onto people who do not want to be dove upon, whether it’s a group of 14 year old girls or 21 year old boys, go fuck yourself. If you think it’s acceptable to act in any way that is harmful to the well-being of other people, either via apathy and carelessness or outright intentional violence, go fuck yourself. If you think it’s acceptable to dictate what is or isn’t “punk” to someone else because you don’t like being told to stop hurting other people and ruining their experience, go fuck yourself.
I’m not going to vilify or justify stage diving right here. But I am going to tell you that no matter what you are doing, the world does not revolve around you, so shut the fuck up and be respectful. Otherwise, why the fuck should anyone respect what you have to say? Oh yeah, and calling people a “bitch” or a “pussy” for standing up against violence at shows (or anywhere for that matter) is a really cool way to let everyone know how much of a fucking mouthbreather you are. Good job, mouthbreather.